Classic textbook WAW situation... just still waiting for the actual walking away... I know she has the "it's time for the next step" letter on her night stand and is waiting for the opportune time to present it to me (she doesn't know that I know it's there)... it was on my night stand last night (she doesn't know that I know she put it there - I ignored it), and then she must have had 2nd thoughts. Anyway, my burning question is; if she's the one walking away, what if her expectation is that I'm the one who moves out? Is it unreasonable for me, while keeping the 4 Cs in mind, to expect her to be the one who moves? Which leads to the next questions... if she says, you're right, and the kids will come with her (17-D, 15-S, 11-D), should that be acceptable? Finally, since I know about the letter, would the ultimate 180 be to compassionately tell her I've been doing a lot of thinking and we don't seem to be making the progress she would like and perhaps she is right, we should try a separation, what can I do to help with your move? Sounds like a huge risk, the "after the last resort" technique… ANY HELP AND SUGGESTIONS APPRECIATED.
H (me): 43, W: 41 D17, S15, D11 T: 22 M: 20 in December 2011 ILYBNILWU: 8/11 LRT
