And THOSE ^^^ above from Sandi and 25 are deeper into the cause...
As as SAHD, without a doubt, I know my W started loosing respect for me, as a Man...
I can give a lot of reasons why the business I did have and subsequent earnings became less and less profitable, some pointing at my W, some pointing at the economy, and truthfully... MOST pointing at me...
And as time wore on, I tried other ventures and had lots of dreams and at one point as things were getting really bad between my W and me, after a potentially VERY lucrative project I was working on failed to receive funding... my W said to me, "I believed in you and this project. I thought this was finally, the one..."
I was a freakin' awesome SAHD! I just failed to be the man my W M... and as time wore on, she began to believe her inner voice and the voices of others spreading FUD... that I... was a mooch, layabout lout, money grubber, etc, etc...
I could go on and on about that...
So really, it's not because I was a SAHD and was not good at that role... it's the pressures of reality that women DO like a manly man... they DO have expectations that a real man provides (financially) for the household... the DO want their man to be protector...
And if we can successfully be manly men AND still be SAHDs... great... but if we cannot... the sooner we have an exit strategy for staying at home and being those men, the better...
I waited too long... My exit strategies were many, but I couldn't bring any of them to fruition, for whatever reason... I stopped being a manly man, a Husband, for my W...
It may yet be not too late for me, although I've still been struggling with getting back on my feet... but every man who is here who is somewhere on this spectrum as a SAHD...
IMHO... that is a very important place to look as to how we contributed to the downfall of our M...
Our Ws still may have left... but those are the reasons... and probably deeper causes... and they aren't unreasonable concerns and requests from our Ws...
