My W is getting a lot of feedback about my kids having a great time when they're with me... she mentions it to me quite a bit... she's "noticing"... but that does not mean she's telling me she wants to join in... until she does that... *shrug*
Yea, these emotions are complicated. I am in a similar boat.
Alamo, do what you feel is right. But yea, make sure you do not appear clingy or needy.
Good luck man!
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...