I was DB'ing but just discovered an affair

[NTX_Dad]

Tomorrow is supposed to be our 15th wedding anniversary, but we are in the middle of a divorce.

My wife has been unhappy for about 6-8 months and she admits she doesn't even know why, but in any case she filed for divorce a couple of months ago.

We get along still most of the time - probably too good. We just had a great weekend and went out together this past Saturday. However, there have been a couple of incidents where she became pretty ugly with rage to the point I wasn't even sure if it was my wife in the room. Her personality changed so drastically and quickly during the two fights.

Anyway, I am wondering if I should acknowlege our anniversary tomorrow in some small way. Obviously I shouldn't get her a gift or take her out, but I was wondering if I should write a her a note, or put a card on her car while she works, or maybe just a quick little text message.

Or should I just ignore her all together?

Over the summer while we tried to reconcile, I became the pursuer and she the distancer, so I want to break that cycle.

I'd appreciate any thoughts.