Trying not to hope is hard

[sandi2]

she's said mean things to me that she has never said before

I think some women do that to make the H see how serious she is about leaving the M. Whenever you, the MC, or anyone else tries to discuss a more positive solution...then she thinks she has to really let you have it harder so you'll find get the picture. That is why she's getting meaner, and she will continue to show how nasty she can be...if she's pressed.

Out of all the horrible things I said to my H, there were a couple of things I never said. Strange thing.....it should have been said from the beginning of our problems. Instead, they laid there in my heart and festered.

So, if your W has not used these exact words with you, I'll say them. IMO, she has lost respect and sexual attraction.

The reason she doesn't "believe in you" is b/c of all the dream puffs you've handed her in the past. With every new job, didn't you try to paint a brighter future?

When a woman discovers that she has M a man who does not start what he finishes.....it can really take the steam out of her sail. She is probably asking herself why this time would be any different than the others. If she has been able to deal with past resentments and dissolve them....that's great and it helps her not to carry that around. However, I'm thinking that now...she looks at your 4 more years of studies as another dream puff that will have holes in it. She is seeing you as being that kind of person who never finishes what he starts.

Oh dear, I'm late for work. I'll finish late