I picked the kids up, they were fine While they were getting sorted she called me to make sure they were fine, the kids got their uniforms and she said she would call later.
We went out for dinner, then back to mine
We were getting settled when she called me, she had lost her keys and could not get into the house, so she asked to get our sons door key.
She then set off to come over, when she arrived she looked so tired, and asked to come in, no problem.
She was talking about things, nothing really, she said she was shattered and looked it, then she left no problem.
Kids were getting settled and we were talking etc
Then my son mentioned about an argument he had the previous with his mother. Basically my wife has been for a photo shot a few months ago, my daughter went but my son didn't want to go.
When my daughter mentioned it to me on the phone, my son said that he wanted to go with us, my wife was not pleased, and told him that he didn't want to go with her, but he wanted a photo with me, she then started to shout about had he forgotten what I was like before, being drunk, etc!!! I was quite shocked when he told me to be honest, talk about dragging the past up again!!!!, but to the kids???
Anyway he told her he wanted to go with me, and she left him alone.
It is obvious she is still very very hurt and angry about the past, still blames me for the situation we are all in, and I do take my share of the situation.
I'm not going to mention this to her, its not worth it and will only cause more upset.
I told my son, that mum was still upset with me, but it was up to him if he wanted to go, he said he did and cuddled me.
I feel sorry for the kids in the middle of this, I know its mainly my fault, but like said yesterday, although I'm sober, the mess is still there!!!
She sent a text later on the night about a phone charger, it again was a nothing text,and ended with a joke.
I again feel sorry for her, I know its not my place to, but I do. She looks tired, and unhappy. The outburst on my son shows the strain is getting to her, its only a photo not a popularity contest?
If he wants a picture with his father so what??
Again its not my problem, I cannot do anything about it or help her, and I'm certainly not going to suggest anything.
What I do know is these kids are so sick and tired of the situation and there is no use telling my wife this, she has already told me that she will not have her life dictated to by kids, this is so unlike her?
So in general things are ok, I'm good and feeling better about the whole situation.
But I do wonder where this is heading, as I cannot she her going on living in denial about her happiness?
