Job bouncing was from about 2000 to 2003. I started teaching karate in 2002, went full-time in 2004. I stopped in 2006 when day-care got too expensive for our son. The years up to 2006 were our prime years.
I became SAHD in 2006, and began school in 2007 in the evenings with the goal that I wanted to be working when all children were in school. This was stated and agreed upon. In 2010 we had a mortgage increase and I had to take 2 semesters off from school due to finances not being available. The was a bad time for me, and I realized a few months ago that I was severely withdrawn and depressed during this time. All my negative habits got worse, and by the time I got a part time job last fall it was already pretty bad between us.
In short, this was all planned and agreed upon some years ago, coming off of some really great years. The years as a SAHD killed our relationship, and I stopped doing all the things that made me ME (music, karate, teaching). I think that the plan to go to school, that we agreed upon, was just more difficult and long than either of us had anticipated. That, along with my poor attention to our marriage and to my SAHD duties, slowly killed our marriage.
One last thing to recap my last post above this. I mostly understand her resentment, what I don't understand at all is how to deal with it.
