I didn't mean for rysmom to wait, but that MAYBE when H eventually comes out of MLC he will have regrets. And I suggested UNTIL then to enjoy life with her loved ones. Not to put her life on hold waiting at all. NO sirree bob. And I will still suggest her seeking help from L to find an alternative to filing for D IF there is one. The laws of her state regarding this are on the internet. As for the free will of her H's, I believe that during MLC, they will do things they might otherwise not, and ow will push them to do things against their better judgment (if they have any at the time), not discounting the fact that it's still his free will to do or not do it(whatever IT is). vc
