Nearly 5 years but who is counting?

[forward]

"I know you are intentionally referring to her as my X to probably try to have me accept that she is gone. "

Actually, MMF, the fact that you referred to her as your W totally went over my head.

As far as the space issue...I am only trying to point out that your *W* seems to feel that you are in her space. Perhaps you are only seeing her in certain situations, true, but it appears that messages about each other's lives are traveling back and forth. Is this healthy?

And I don't think you are insane for choosing to hold the stance you do--so long as you are not, as some people say, "standing still." If you still have the emotional stamina, then I say go for it. Some people do such things successfully, and I also feel that part of being successful is knowing that you have done the very best that you could.

At the same time, perhaps there are things that need to change. It is valuable to look at the ending and consider where things are.