Back home - but for how long?

[NYCPeter]

The "delay" can help some, but I think you have to go into it with the right idea and I hope you are.

I'm hoping the delay will allow her to see the changes that have taken place, she may be changing her mind but not by me forcing her to but by my actions.

My advice regarding the late nights is to give her all the freedom in the world to do it without commenting on it, even though I think you're right that it's hugely disrespectful.

It's something I need to let go of - I think that I find most upsetting is that she knows I find it disrespectful.

I also don't think she's having an affair...

I so hope you are right - I have to trust her until proven different.