Saving the M and caring for a baby

[KenF]

Great! now he's challenging your expectations. haha funny how the pendulum swings.

its all good dueinMay. this is what you've been wanting to hear. relish it for a minute or two before you doubt yourself/him. allow yourself to enjoy this for what it is.

He wants You home.

from where you were to where you are - is incredible progress. amazing.



dont worry about the 'brainwashed and crazy' thing too much. i think everyone freaks a bit for the first one. i know i did. doesn't mean i dont love the kid any less, its just a huge life changing event that has no out clause. i think it should freak you out. if you're not freaked out, you're not paying attention.

guys are mechanical - how are we going to afford this? can i make it work.

women are emotional - how much am i going to love this, cant wait to play with it.

you played house, you've practiced this, you've gone over this scenario before. us? not so much.

he's a good dad, thats the important part. and he has been making great progress.

and i dont mean to minimize what you felt while he freaked and did the wrong things. your feelings were hurt, and thats all valid. you'll need to find it in yourself to forgive.


i get the feeling he's holding back. i think he's more attracted to you than he lets on, and wants you home more than he's saying.

and i think he's doing this because he doesnt want to come across as pressuring you too much. and maybe he's scared you'll reject him. could it be he's worried about being seen as vulnerable?


as much as i would love to be able to say you should move back, i dont think this is right. you're not ready. i feel you still have a lot of pain and forgiveness to work through. but you're both heading in the right direction.