I totally accept exactly where you are coming from and like your bluntness, you pull no punches and say it as you see it, and I respect that.
But as of now I am only 2 months sober, when I'm 2 years sober I'll tell her that then, I can only speak of the now.
She is aware that i'm sober, and I wasn't using it as a reason to rush back together, I was just saying that I was trying to change, not that I was "mended"
Maybe it all sounded about me, but that might be down to how I have written it, it was a very open and frank conversation, were we both spoke openly about what happened and the now, it was not all me, me, me, yes I said I wanted to save my marriage, but other than that it was about us.
The getting the tattoo removed was for me, I am trying to move on with my life, what do I do?, get divorced and walk round with my wedding ring on because I want to stay married.
Although it hurts I do have to accept that this is what she wants, I cannot change that, so I'm trying to move on with my life.
At the moment my thoughts are only about me and my kids, they are the only things I have any control over.
I cannot control how my wife thinks or what she does, I can only do that for me, so if things come across as selfish, that's because "this" is about me, this forum is not for her, its for me, so this is where I put my feelings and thoughts down.
So I apologise if my comments were mis-guided or not explained clearly for you to understand.
I am just very hurt, I feel at times we are so close, then she gone again.
I have to be friendly and consistant, but she is also very inconsistant, and I'm sorry, I'm only human and sometimes I react to certain things.
The relationship with my kids is outstanding, we are so very close, my daughter has even asked that we go for a photography session together, just the 3 of us!! That is a great change in relationship, and also 1 my wife has commented on, so I'm getting something right at least!!!
What further actions do you think I should try and impliment with my wife?
