Wife no longer in love with me - Part 4

[MrBond]

"being here makes me feel like she will come back one day, which is very unlikely."

Last time I checked, you weren't a fortune teller. So you really don't know. The house isn't the source of your pain. Is it a reminder? Sure. So is every romantic song that you hear on the radio, a pretty girl that looks like her in passing, a movie that has a plot similar to your life. Everything is a trigger. BTW that's what they're called. Triggers.

Triggers fade in time. They do. I was as pessimistic as you were and it's only over time that those things don't run my life. Take the fact that nothing has happened as a blessing. It gives you the time to re-establish the trust.

"She is just blocking it as it's too painful for her."
Again, stop assuming you know what she thinks. The only thing you know for sure is that she has been hurt and doesn't trust you.

"I want her to think about what she's doing and look at it harder"

What's up with all the "I want"? Weren't you the one who "wanted" to get drunk before? How did that work out for you? What does she want? And I don't mean a D. She wants to not be hurt any more. She wants to have fun and live her life (without any drama). She wants peace.

Knowing that, how can you do that? Even staying away can achieve that. You want her to stop thinking about the bad and start thinking about the good.

Concentrate on that.

Moving and sticking her with a decision she doesn't want really doesn't seem to be helping her see you in a positive light. I'm not saying that you need to accommodate her, but to a certain degree, she feels that you owe it to her after all the stuff you've put her through.

It's up to you on whether you need to sell or not. But don't do it to stick it to her or to make her "feel" something. It's just as childish as removing your tattoo. Yeah I'm sure she really wants to run back to you after that action.