My husband is going through mlc, and since he dropped the bomb he refuses to have sex. He had an ea with ow, but this is over for certain. He wants to stay with me and go through mc and give us a try.
It is frustrating because he will only hug and kiss. Tells me the rest just has to happen naturally, which i understand but how can it when he refuses intimacy that goes beyond hugs and kisses? I cant kiss his neck the way i used to or he pulls away. I have respected his wishes and stopped trying to be with him the past two months and let him come to me if he wants hugs or kisses.
He says he doesnt feel passion or attraction to me. A lot of it dropped off years ago with the birth of our child and his working nights.
He doesnt think passion is something you have to work for and it should all come natural. I tried to explain that many couples experience a disconnect andmit takes some work..
I don't know what to do but it worries me that he refuses intimacy. It worries me that it will widen the gap even farther between us. I can be patient though.
