Thinking about sending this to my W tonight to get things started. Would appreciate any thoughts or comments. Thanks
"W,
Following our discussion on the weekend, I would like us to move forward with selling the house sooner rather than later. It's painful for me to be living there alone and most importantly without you.
I am moving in late November, so I need to have the house finalised and sold before then as I will not be able to maintain the mortgage by myself whilst not living there.
Therefore, can you please start engaging real estate agents and begin this process. I still love you and still think that we can have a great life together as a couple and a family. I've not changed my mind on that. But you need to do what will make you happy. I can not bring myself to assist with you on this, helping you to end our life together, as its not what I want and this is ultimately your decision.
I will send you a set of keys to meet agents and prepare the house for sale (do what you want to the second bedroom). I will be away for the next couple of weekends, so it will give you time to organise agents, remove your things and get it listed. Please keep me informed on the agent selection and your rational for selecting a specific agent and include a break down of the fees along with any other contributing costs.
Once you have your things and this process starts, I do not expect that there will be a need to see each other again, so I will leave it to you to update on the process.
I am heart broken, remorseful, frustrated, disappointed and empty - I trust that you're comfortable with your decision to end our marriage (8 year relationship) and this will help you find whatever or whoever you're looking for.
Cam"
M 35 W 31 Separated 2/2011 but still together Ended it 4/2011 Together 8 yrs Married 3.5 yrs Lawyers involved 6/2011