WCF....I've been reading your posts, but never written to you before. All I can say is Wow!! I can't believe she would say that to you and be so nasty when she is the one sleeping with another guy....WTF!
The thing is, I can see her hare-brained logic. I have almost fallen for it several times, especially in the beginning when I didn't know any better. In her mind, she is not cheating on me -- she has left a horrible, unfulfilling R for someone that she "should" be with instead. My new boundaries are only perceived as an extension of that "selfish behavior" that caused her to look elsewhere in the first place. Now, not only did I push her to be with someone else, I'm unfairly abandoning her...
I realize writing this assessment of her mind that there's really nothing I can do. I'm the bad guy no matter what I do. It's up to her to face reality, if she ever does.
Thanks for the support, Cam. I'm planning on being cool, crisp, and without judgment, being loving but remaining firm on my boundaries. I am steadily realizing that this truly is the best thing to do for both of us.
