My MIL Loves OW and Hates me...What to Do?

[25yearsmlc]

first off,

good thing you are not married to your mil!

So why is this post about HER, and not about you and your marriage and your husband?

Why did your h have an EA to begin with? Why'd You want to live closer to your mil?

What's it mean when you say it didn't work out financially and she kicked you out of the house? Did you guys pay rent or not?

The "Christian" comments you make are a huge turn off for me b/c although I'm a believer, when I hear it said with contempt about another person, I think there is hypocrisy, and self righteousness around. Don't judge her faith. Don't judge her at all. You don't have to prove anything to us!

But I'm guessing that attitude has not helped you but has gotten you here, along with whatever else you are leaving out of the post.

You have to open up more bravely for us to help.

I mean, how can we possibly advise you about your marriage,

when all we know is your mil is a strong minded woman with a career, and you are a strong minded homemaker? Personally I can't stand it when career women mock homemakers OR homemakers mock career women.

Don't we females have it hard enough dealing with sexist men in the world? Must we backstab each other too?

Obviously there's a lot more to your conflict than those factors.

But like I said, where is your h in all this?

what did HE SAY about YOU or your flaws or what he wishes you would change?

Have you changed those things? How?

Have you read the Div Busting or Div Remedy Books at all? You need to do that asap so you can understand where we are coming from on this site.

We don't advise you on how to change your h (or his mother for that matter)

we only advise the partner posting here....ie YOU.

What is it you are working to change in YOU so that by definition, your relationships with others also change?

FYI my r with my mil was horrible for a third of our m. She was mentally ill, from a very different culture, she hated my faith and the fact that I had a career w/our first kids.

Then when I stayed at home with our 3rd child and quit my job, she hated THAT! I could not win. So I stopped battling...made things much easier.

what is is you want to change in you? That's where we may be able to help.