My mother in law does not like me. I am too weird for her. The only thing we have in common is we love my H and we are both oppinionated women. Other wise she is a business minded, feminist, claims to be a christian but not sure about that, who seeks earthly treasure. I am a creative, old fashioned, conservative christian, who does not care much about status or money. We have never had a relationship and always butted heads but we agreed to disagree and had 2000 miles between us.
3 years ago I told my husband we could move closer to her if he wanted and we did. She helped us get on our feet there. She ended up investing in a lot of houses to eventually sell to us family members. In the end things did not work out $$$ wise for us and she basically threw us out of the house. She also never treated her grandchildren like they were much more than a nuisance. But I kept on trying. I ended up giving up on a business idea because it was not feasable and she started to hate me. We did not speak for months. I also think she is embarassed because her son is poor and she blames me because I am a homemaker.
Well now I find out about this EA and she is promoting it! She is buddy buddy with OW on facebook. I think she was (or is) trying to take my husband and OW on a cruise this month with her and some other family members. I tried to be the bigger woman and apologize to her and build a bridge between us. She refused my apology and told me I would never change, I destroyed my marriage, and I should just move on!!!!
What do I do? I just can not believe she cares so little about her grandchildren that she would have them devastated by divorce and encouraging her son to move thousands of miles from them. I can't believe she is trying to push my H to the OW. I don't know how my husband can think she has his best interest at heart when she threw us on the streets and hates me. I honestly do not think that my husband can move on and try to work things out with me fully with his mother promoting the OW. I think one of the big things is that she tells him not to trust me or the changes I have made because I won't stick to them. I wish I could just make my husband understand that the changes are going to stick because my marriage is too important to me to not keep up with them.
