But if I try to fill his then maybe it will be reciprocal???
Call me cold, but if I had six kids from 2 to 16....he would be very lucky if I ever looked his way, much less be concerned about filling his needs! Girlfriend, you must be quiet the woman!
I think you know down in your heart that this is going to take much more than you meeting his needs. And, here's the thing.....he is going to have to be the one to fix what's broken. He's the one with serious additions, not only sex...but gambling.
It seems that he has devalued you for so long, and made you feel that it's your fault that he's the way he is....until you've bought into the lie. How many times do you catch yourself thinking "If only I had been more sexy... more giving, made him feel better about himself, etc., etc.?" He is very fortunate that his W and 6 kids are still living with him!
((hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
