Some of the advice given here on DB is to believe none of what she does and only half of what she says. I am looking for some experience on this as far as what others have done.
If I treat her that way 100% of the time it would be like having a relationship with someone you truly mistrust. Since I need to build trust, I need some insight into how to balance these two things.
I think you are misunderstanding the point of that aphorism. Plus you have it backwards. It's believe none of what she SAYS, and only half of what she DOES. That's because the WAS in crisis will say many things that, while hurtful, they don't actually mean (or even remember, once the fog clears!). So instead of over-reacting to the verbal spew, watch their BEHAVIORS (and recognize that half of THAT is bunk too).
One example - if a WAS is saying they will NEVER be with you again, but is calling all the time and acting jealous that you might be dating someone new - believe their actions and not their words, ok?
There are often a lot of unconscious things driving them, they may not even be aware of their feelings for a while.
AS far as trusting her in the future - that can be a tough one. But it might be a little premature to worry about that right now.
