I checked with my bank just to be sure. No, she can't just "cancel" the loan. There really isn't anything that she can do about it. About all she can do is NOT sign the paperwork allowing me to remove her name from the title. Either way, my loan isn't going anywhere.
I don't think that either drugs or alcohol are involved, but as I have understood the scientific literature, affairs can create chemicals in the brain that are just as potent and addictive as regular drugs. In addition, it's all too often that people who engage affairs totally re-write reality in order to justify what they're doing. If she really thought that was she was doing was right and unselfish, there would be zero reason to lash out at me like this...
Because of her history of sexual assault, I'm not holding these kinds of responses against her the way I would with a normal person. Rape survivors can harbor some really deep scars that come out in destructive ways, and I have seen all sorts of destructive, out-of-touch reactions come out of her throughout our R. However, I am starting to wonder if this is really the way things should end. I could not imagine dealing with this kind of instability if we had kids involved in the matter...
Yes, I have read Brain Lock several times. I'm not sure if I had full-blown OCD or not. My symptoms were rarely "external" compulsions, like washing or cleaning, but they did take up hours of time in the day and severely damaged my personal and professional life in various ways.
