Well, folks, here's how it went down. This was my letter to her:
W:
I am writing this e-mail to you because I feel that it's come to this, and also because I'm much better at organizing my thoughts on paper. I care about you very much, and I am respecting your wishes to find your happiness elsewhere. I'm truly sorry if you couldn't find that happiness with me. However, I really feel that space is the best thing for us now. I have come to a decision over the last three months that I am not willing to share you in any form with another man, even if my relationship with you only constitutes friendship.
I will keep you updated on [the rabbit] and me if anything major happens, but otherwise just assume that we're doing okay. If it really bothers you to be without him, we can figure out a way to give him back to you somehow. I love him very much, but I know that he's your rabbit, so I won't keep him from you. (As I agreed, I will also let you see him when you come down in the next couple of weeks.)
I honestly do wish you all of the happiness in the world.
--WCF
(P.S.: I have spoken to someone at the bank about the auto loan. I'm looking to re-finance it with my dad as the co-signer so that you don't need to be on my loan anymore. I will keep you updated on this process.)
That was on Friday night. Just got her response on Sunday morning:
I wish I could say I am surprised at your total selfishness, but given your behavior when we were married, I am sorry to say that I am not surprised. I was the perfect girlfriend and wife to you for five and a half years and my parents treated you like their own son, and now you are just going to cut us all out of your life. You are disgusting and I regret that I wasted even one second of my life on you.
So here's what's going to happen: I will be visiting [the rabbit] in a couple of weeks. I can't take him with me now, but I will be taking him back when I move back to Washington next summer. I also expect money for the furniture you took as well as all the household items. I will also be removing my name from the car loan as soon as possible and I frankly don't care if you lose the car over it.
I wish I could impress upon you what an awful and dispicable person I think you are and how much I regret all the time I wasted on you. I thought you were a good person, but I can see now that you are truly a terrible person. I hope you enjoy your pointless and miserable life.
--W
Wow....just wow. There was a time before that I would quake and quail at this kind of response, but now I'm seeing right through her ridiculous behavior. I am simply appalled at how hard she's trying to devalue me and make ME out to be the selfish bad guy when SHE'S the one cheating on me and using me for her emotional needs. And now she thinks she deserves money when she got the majority of the money when she left! AND she's now living on a double-income now that OM is living with her, so how does any of that make sense? (I could go on about how I got the maxed-out credit card and she didn't, but the whole sordid story is just not worth telling.)
I'm shaking my head right now. I thought she was so much better than this. This response really demonstrates to me just how far she's gone from my loving and wonderful W to a person who I don't even recognize anymore.
Any tips on what I should do now? I was going to write a response saying that I don't think that I owe her any money, but instead, I think that I'm just going to let her cool down and think things over. The time for the "fixer" is over now.
