I'm with you there, on the stepkids thing... I too would gladly have them over, I just don't know how that would fly with their dad. I'm sure they'd be fine doing a day thing but staying overnight seems a road too far.
Our S and his older SS and SB are separated on and off already when they go see their dad. So he's used to some small period separation. Sometimes in the summer it can be up to a week at a time; my S struggles with that much time away from them.
The 50/50 thing does have the added benefit of child support reduction I absolutely would want my son 50/50 (at a minimum!) but I also like the fact that it really drives down support. In Wisconsin it's a pretty straight forward formula so it's pretty easy to calculate. At 50/50 she gets about $100-$150 a month from me. Good luck with that!
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD
I absolutely would want my son 50/50 (at a minimum!) but I also like the fact that it really drives down support. In Wisconsin it's a pretty straight forward formula so it's pretty easy to calculate. At 50/50 she gets about $100-$150 a month from me. Good luck with that!
