PLEASE!!! Need help quick! Calling all vets!

[crushednstuck]

[Maybe what I need to tell you is my biggest REGRET. Know what it is? That I didn't wake up more quickly to putting more energy into my own recovery and making a life for myself instead of wasting all those days and months on worrying and questioning and pining over someone who hurt me more and did more damage to me than anyone on this earth ever will].

This is tough love Tad, but as I mark two years post bomb, it is something you need to take to heart.

They are cruel. Mine is remorseless. Move. Place no value on what she says brother. Embrace the forgiveness of
"release" because you may not ever receive the forgiveness of "pardoning" her. Because that takes acknowledgement of her betrayal. By allowing forgiveness of "release" you are able to move forward and forgive her because you release the control she has over your emotions. Do it. You're a prolific poster here bordering on pathetic.

My W is hot. She is the beautiful mother of my children. I miss her immensely, but she is pure evil now. I dread the fact that I won't find anyone as pretty and engaging, but I can no longer be treated like a doormat.

Like mine, many won't acknowledge the devastation they are wreaking on the people that love them most; including kids.

These things are said from love, for your situation and for my W who knows not what she does. But its time to grab some sack and lead our lives as the head of our families regardless of the pain inflicted by our Ws.

Pick up that sword. Attach the breastplate and fix the helmet. Love your family intensely; pull your friends close and grasp hold of your faith. Move forward as we all need to do. Only they themselves can pull themselves from the muck and follow your leadership - without your urging.