Ctflor, Know just how you feel. My H's birthday is coming up in 3 weeks and I've already started to look at cards - it's usually hard enough trying to find one that hits the right spot. This time around, I think it'll be impossible to get it right.
And then, having bought the 'safe' card', what does one write inside???
Remember the time when life just went on and there were absolutely no thoughts like this, no second guessing? But then, I suppose for our H's there were these problems and we just didn't know.
