stunned and GB, Thanks guys for the words of encouragement. I agree with both of you. Our meeting with the mediator was interesting. It was a free consult, he is a l who specializes in med. After giving us his spiel, he asked our sitch. I told him we had no kids, no debt, and assets which we had already drawn up a plan to divide 50/50. He said that if it was him, he would forego med,and L and file pro se, i.e. on my own. In jersey this is an option. W and I left the office and agreed that this would be our plan. I will file petition when I am ready, which, the way I feel now, will be on my schedule. I am getting no pressure from her file anytime soon.
Stunned, you are right about maintaining bearing. I do feel as if I am emerging, ever so slightly, from the dark tunnel I have been in for the last 3-4 weeks. From what I am reading, this is pretty standard, after getting the ###7& kicked out of me,and smacked on the side of the grape repeatedly, I am starting to regain some small degree of focus.
GB, I have worked very hard to remain friends throughout this ordeal, treating her as if she is a very close neighbor. She has reciprocated, She is taking a 3 day trip to ohio next weekend to bring some stuff to her sisters so she does not have to rent a uhaul, I have offered to let her use my new subaru wagon to haul it. This does not cost me anything, but engenders some good will.
On the health ins, I work for county gov, my ins plan is the gold standard, no copay, no mo payments, unheard of in today econ, but because I am grandfathered, it will not cost me anything to keep her on plan until 2014, and even then only small amount. Again, doesnt cost me, but brings good will on her part. Bottom line, she is still full steam ahead on leaving, but not pushing d, at least not yet.
Thanks again guys for the good words, SEMPER FI!!
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
