WAH bringing over divorce papers

[gunny]

LWTG,
I feel for your sitch. I am in very similar sitch. W and I went to see mediator the other day. Very are very amicable, she is adamant about moving away to Ohio. The mediator said that since we have no kids, no liabilities, and only assets, if it was him, he would file for d on his own, which we can do in my state, NJ. My understanding is that we have to be sep for 6 months,(until recently this was 18 mos).

W agreed that I could file. So, the onus is on me to do the dirty work and I am in no hurry to file, told her so, and she said she isnt either, althoug she is still moving. So, like you, I am torn.

Looking at your sitch, like Valeska, I ask what is to be gained by looking at option 2? If you still feel you want to be amicable in future, and even after d you think there is chance to rec, why push it. It seems either option 1 or 3 are your choices, and if you choose 3, is this going to pour gas on the fire? If option 1, I have read on this forum in a couple of differnt places that once MLCER or WAS has pressure of marriage off their backs, sometimes they become friendlier and more open to friendship. These are questions you will have to think long and hard over. Like you, I am getting near the point where I will have to start thinking about them also.

Hang in there!!