Grace, Love, Compassion, and Faith

[JustStunned]

Val, truly changing ourselves is one of the hardest things we will ever do. It requires stripping away all of the preconceptions, defense mechanisms, and walls we have built. Over the years we have become comfortable behind these. This place has become safe.

Then along comes a trauma forcing us to adapt. We’ve got to change to live again. We could stay the same and survive. To live we must change.

As you posted fear of change holds us back. Hope that circumstances we cannot control will evolve enough to return us to where we were holds us back. You’ve recognize how this is false.

We must motivate ourselves to change, to live, to transform. It is a slow process, as real change happens slowly. Epiphanies happen and show us a direction, but the journey to arrive there requires time, effort, and motivation. It is often a slow walk.

What we use to motivate ourselves to change must overcome these false hopes and fear of change. I no longer visualize futures that include STBX. It helps me leave behind that false hope. Having future life goals mapped out permits us to put some of the pedestrian steps we are going through in perspective.

Mediation is one step along the path. It is not the end. To paraphrase Sir Winston Churchill “It is perhaps but the beginning of the end”. As a step the direction taken following it determines the direction of your path.

Step toward your goals.