B/c your stories are Not consistent and some of them ring hollow.
I'm not trying to be cute here. It's just that this observation on your part reminds me that I feel the collective advice you all have given me is inconsistent. Make demands of my wife, make her feel safe, don't try to fix her, take her to therapy, make ultimatums, don't pressure her.
As Bagheera said, I might be done with this thread at this point too. I'm glad most of you have had better success than I think I'll ever have fixing this marriage, at least in the sexual sense.
