Thanks for the tips, Gritter. I shortened it up and took out the apologies, then sent it just now. This is a big deal to me, and I'm really going to have to put everything I have into backing up this new boundary. She will pull all kinds of tricks to get me to rescind it. It will be difficult to reinforce because I've become so used to giving her whatever she wants, but I realized after our last phone call that I'm at "THAT POINT." I wouldn't have sent this letter if I wasn't. I'm willing to break up our marriage with this darkness if it means I don't have to be verbally or emotionally abused by this person who is masquerading as my W.
I have to really thank you, CS, and Chaos for 2X4-ing me into this decision. Had you guys not convinced me how messed-up it was for me to keep tolerating this behavior, I would have allowed myself to be emotionally and mentally tortured for many months longer than I believe I will now. Also, my W would have never found respect for me had I continually been her "friend." Through this path, she will find respect for me, even if she doesn't like it.
