Maybe it'll help to think of it like this: if you get justification that you've been hurt and poorly treated, will that make you feel stronger and more in control of your destiny? Will it make him wake up and change? Not likely. If you let go of caring about the unfairness and just deal with the cards as you're dealt them, is there more of a downside or less of a downside?

Focusing on where you're trying to get to will help you get out of the victim and punitive mentality, and you will appear stronger and more attractive.

Been there, done that...with the PMA I'm practicing, no one is feeling sorry for me. When I catch myself wishing for a pity party I ask myself the same questions I asked you.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.