Compassion for a MLCer

[broken5150]

Hey Mach,

In a weird way, the D is something that Im actually look fwd to. For the reason to finally give her what she wants and to legally protect my rights as a father. That is the only thing she sees that Im not giving her.

When I get my place, that means fun time with the kids is back. My weekends/every day are for them. When they sleep over on Saturday nights, that means that their little buts are getting up early on Sunday and going to church with dad so they can see the greatest guitar player in the world play for The Lord and learn that God comes first before ANYTHING!

Financially and legally, Im looking for a good lawyer to take of this. Actually, I have to go for Legal Aid.

When it comes to the kids, she was an OUTSTANDING mother. Even though shes gotten a little careless, Im confident that she would NEVER let something happen to them. My first born has autism. She is keeping up with his Dr. appts and he/they are being well taken care of either by W(sometimes) her mother, or myself.

My problem is, I HAVE to get my place because when she’s out with OM, or she brings him into the house with his friends, I want the kids with ME!

In what light do I want her to see me in?

She WILL see that no matter what the odds are, I WILL overcome. I will show her that I am the man and father my babies need me to be. And, after the smoke clears and if/when she comes to her senses, Im NOT turning my back on her. I will love her forever. And if its Gods will for us to reconcile, let His will be done. If not, I will ALWAYS be there for her.

As far as how other people see me.. all my friends, family and church members know what Im going through. Only in the end of my days will MY testimony be given. As for now, they’ve seen that Ive kept my cool and honored her no matter what shes done. Yeah, Ive lost my temper a couple of times but, Ive kept my cool. And THAT is DEVINE INTERVENTION!
God knows I have Gamma Radiation in my blood :o)

[Mach1]

While that appears to be a good plan....

I'm not too sure that God sits on the bench for too many Divorce hearings...

It is the "hows" in your speak that concern me....

How do you plan to get there ?

How do you plan to get your own place ?

How do you plan to be that Father ?

How do you plan to move forward for yourself ?

I get that you want to be all of those things...the Father, the Husband , the parishioner....

What about you Sammy ?

When are you Sammy just because that is what Sammy needs ?


What I speak of, is an overall picture of the combined little things that will make a difference for you...

How do you get there ?

Maybe think about this one for a while ????

[broken5150]

Hi Guys!

Quick question, does the replay get worse when OM is in the picture?
Also, do these affairs ever succeed?

[Jack_Three_Beans]

In MLC the OM is a symptom, just as replay is a symptom and rewritting history is as well.

There is not much you can do legally to get rid of the OM, and anything you try will backfire, and bind the two love birds closer together.

So to answer your question, does replay get worse when OM is in the picture. I don't know.

But it doesn't matter as both are out of your hands.

Do these affairs ever succeed?

What's your definition of success?

80% (or so, from memory) of all affairs, that result in creating another marriage, end in divorce.

[broken5150]

Ok, I REALLY need an opinion here!


W called me this morning AGAIN insisting that I sign the D papers. I don’t have a problem signing them, just not under the conditions that are written on there. I told her that my main concern was the REDICULOUS amount of child support she is asking for.

She then said that she would agree to any amount so we can both just MOVE ON!

So, shortly after, she admitted that there was OM in her life and they have been together for months now. She also said that he is a VERY respectful guy and he will NOT take the next step with her unless she divorces me.

I mean, REALLY???

So we came upon a verbal agreement and she said FINE! I JUST WANT TO END THIS!!!


So we hung up.

5 min later, she called me hysterically crying! I thought something had happened and W busts out with “ I JUST HAD TO TELL OM TO MOVE ON WITH HIS LIFE AND FORGET ABOUT ME BECAUSE I KNOW YOU WONT DIVORCE ME AND YOU ARE TRYING TO SCREW ME OVER!” I HATE YOU!

Then she hung up.


What does one have to do with the other???

I mean, this guy has been tagging my W for some months now and now she tells me that she told him to move on with his life because I won’t sign a D paper right away?

WTH???

[warriorshadow]

Broken,
Sorry you are going through this.

What you describe is total script.

After a while you get used to this and realize it is script.

MLC=confusion

WS

[broken5150]

Mach!!!_

[Mach1]

W called me this morning AGAIN insisting that I sign the D papers. I don’t have a problem signing them, just not under the conditions that are written on there. I told her that my main concern was the REDICULOUS amount of child support she is asking for.

She then said that she would agree to any amount so we can both just MOVE ON!

So, shortly after, she admitted that there was OM in her life and they have been together for months now. She also said that he is a VERY respectful guy and he will NOT take the next step with her unless she divorces me.

I mean, REALLY???

So we came upon a verbal agreement and she said FINE! I JUST WANT TO END THIS!!!


So we hung up.

5 min later, she called me hysterically crying! I thought something had happened and W busts out with “ I JUST HAD TO TELL OM TO MOVE ON WITH HIS LIFE AND FORGET ABOUT ME BECAUSE I KNOW YOU WONT DIVORCE ME AND YOU ARE TRYING TO SCREW ME OVER!” I HATE YOU!

If you don't try.....you are the enemy...

When you do try....you are the enemy....

Which one do you prefer ?????


What do you think her reaction would have been if you would have signed right there on the spot ?


You might have noticed....

The MLCer likes to cast themselves into that...."victim" role..

IF you choose to divorce her, then she can tell all of her you friends, that you divorced her...

If you don't ???

Then "poor me, he won't give me a Divorce ...he is so controlling..."


So take your choice....

Which one causes YOU less stress ????

watch me push this button on Sammy, he dances when I do

Get rid of that button Sammy.....

[~ kd ~]

Wow, broken! If there was any question your W was MLC... I'd have to say she answered that, without out a doubt!

If you wait five more minutes, she might call you to tell you she made up with OM, ask you if you're happy, and whether you need one or two invites to their wedding...

[broken5150]

Hi Guys,

Man, they were kidding when they said that MLC gets WORSE before it gets better.


Yesterday, W dropped the bomb that she has OM and that shes very happy with him.

This morning, she text to let me know that the kids were sick and stayed home from school.

I stated to her “ Im sorry that feel you need to end our M. If you think this guys is the right one for you, I wish you the very best. Im leaving our battlefield in peace and with hopes that one day we can be mutual friends”.

Soon after, I got a text from OM from her phone. ( Or maybe it was her) who knows….

It said “ Yo wassup its “OM” we can always be friends yo I got nutting against u n we will be happy. Why don’t you sign the papers and let her live dawg?”

LMBO!

W claims that shes sick and has not eaten in three days and its all because of me. She says OM is a great guy but hes just concerned and that he sees ME as the source of her problems.

So I guess signing D papers brings your appetite back huh??? Lol.

I replied stating “ Look, this situation is between you and I. Lets leave it like that”.

Of course she replied calling me a pathetic excuse for a human being and that Im a sick animal.

Im getting to the point that this stuff is just bouncing off me. Her infatuation with this guy is something else. Not Im worried for my kids. I don’t trust this guy.

She says he’s a well educated person and very mature. What the hell is he doing getting involved???

Stay tuned for tomorrows episode of “As The Stomach Turns”…

Have a great weekend all