((DG)) Birthday's are hard. As you know I was a wreck on mine and my w's. I didn't wish her HB, she did me.
I guess it's important to really look at why you would be sending it. Are you sending it out of selfish reasons? Out of fear? Do you have expectations when sending it? How do you think he would be affected by you sending it? or not sending it?
Our sitch's are similar in that our spouses don't contact us. When my w chose to take me out of her life, I chose to respect her wishes. That included her birthday. I didn't do it out of spite, or anger. I did it out of respect of her choice. By doing that.. she also felt the consequence of her action. Not by my hand.. but by her own. She even told me that.
By no means I am saying that is what you should do. But what are your husband's current actions showing you? How is he saying he wants you in his life right now?
Are you afraid he will think you don't care about him if you don't send him something?
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
