What happens next part II?????

[Queen_of_Swords]

I wanted to make an addendum to Sandi's post as well in which she wrote:

The H may think he is cooperating or letting the W have her way.....but in reality he is passive. The stronger the woman...the more she desires to have a man who will stand his ground....especially when she is wrong. That is why you see some women go after the bad boys....not b/c he's bad, but b/c she often mistakes his bad behavior...as him being strong.

Oh, and one more thought here....if the H leaves the children's discipline up to the W to carry out......very bad resentment will take root. She wants a man who will take charge. I'm not saying to take things to the other extreme. You have to use some wisdom here.

What really hacked me off in my R with STBX who also has behaved as Sandi describes and as passively, is that it left ME carrying most of the responsibility of our lives. I was CEO and CFO.
I often felt overburdened by this.
I wanted a partner, not to do it by myself.

The more I took on responsibility he abdicated, the less he had to do, and the more he resented me and labelled me as controlling.