Sorry you're here. It is a very tough situation. It is sad that it takes such an extreme situation to open our eyes. I know it did for me to open mine.
This will be very difficult but the first thing you need to realize is that self pity and clinging or begging your wife is not attractive. Think back to what you were when you know you were attractive to her. Be that man again.
Give her space if she needs it. Don't smother her as it will push her away. I speak from recent experience.
It can be done. I am doing it but it took a while. Don't respond to things too quickly as emotions will cloud your judgment.
