Volume II

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Thanks, all. I am concerned about her for a number of reasons; obviously for this condition she is getting checked out, but also for her general well-being...she has been working three jobs to support her new living arrangement, and she is trying to balance that with her responsibility to SS22. She has not mentioned anything about her other two housemates; I don't ask.

Last night I had dinner with my friend who was my best man at our wedding. He was supportive and understood my pain but advised me to slow down and wait on the D. He has known W and me since we first met, and he, like all of you, asked me if hurrying to file would change anything. He thinks it will not be a very long time until her world implodes and she realizes what a mistake she made.

So I have decided to do nothing for now about the D; no marital asset agreement, no filing, no meetings...nothing. My previous rush to file and move on was a reaction, not action. I felt disrespected by her poor choices, weak for tolerating her EA as long as I did and needy for showing my emotions too often. My need to file was an "I'll just show you" tactic.

I have been filling my free time with family, friends, music, exercise, working on the house and reading. It all helps to keep my mind and body occupied. I resist the temptation to contact her at all; that's very difficult at times. And I've learned to throw the big red STOP sign up if my mind starts to drift to her and the OM.

You are right, jb...it is a marathon, not a sprint. I'm not thinking about the finish line.