Drew got it! It doesn't have to be forever, because there will come a time when they (the MLC'er) will start going back to their senses. And thats the times to start interacting.
I am just trying to help Tad avoid what I have been through before, which is what he is doing, and more.
My H's cousin was sharing with me how her own H had an MLC with an affair. IN her own words "I let him have everything he wanted, the OW, fredom, etc. until he choked on it!" She did work on herself though, and true enough, after several months, H came back and now, a few years later, their M is stronger than ever!
The key word I think is not necessarily to agree with everything but NOT to argue. So if the MLCer says anything you don't agree with, just say something like "I see your point" or maybe just even nod and don't add to it.
If she wants D, let her have everything she needs.
When my H used to threaten me with D, a couple of times I actually stood up, told him that we should get dressed so we could go out and find a lawyer there and then, and then he stalled.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
