WAH bringing over divorce papers

[Long_Way_To_Go]

Thanks for the questions, it helps me sort through some stuff.

1. I don't think holding onto hope has been holding me back. The sadness, loss and loneliness are holding me back. I am seeing an IC to work through a lot of this, but the grieving process for me is very slow. I'm taking small steps to move forward and am proud of those steps. But sometimes I wonder if I had moved forward more this last year I would have seen better results with the DB.

2. Option 3--not signing the papers--would just buy more time. But honestly, the chances of that helping are very slim. I think he is so focused on his path, more time wouldn't make a difference. I am just considering it as an option because I don't like feeling like I am giving up by signing the papers.

3. Option 2--asking for most of our assets. I guess I am just thinking of myself and what I need to rebuild my life. He chose to start a new life without me. I am being forced to start a new life. (Please know I am not talking about large sums of money here. We both make very modest livings, live in a modest house and have a small savings for emergencies). I have lost a lot through this "journey" he has chosen to take and I just don't think it is fair to split everything in half.

Yes, the divorce process could be amicable. People tell me I am too nice to him as it is.