Words are words. You think by telling her all this she will hear it and reconsider?
You can't talk your way out of something you ACTED your way into.
First make the changes. Make them for you not because your W will come back because she may not.
Then live your changes.
Act the way the man you want to be would act.
If someone was saying this stuff to you would you want to come back?
How much more pain and suffering will you endure before you stop?
I see this cycle with you. You beat yourself up. Decide that if you could only get your W back everything would be fine. You obsess that she won't come back. You kick yourself in the jimmy. Then you let your feelings of despair and neediness get to you and you try to beg your W back. Then she kicks you in the jimmy.Then you get discouraged and decide to just to leave and get a D. Repeat.
Your W is not going to make you happy. She didn't while you were married. Those things you did that she has complaints about? That was you. That was YOU not being happy.
We know WHAT happened Cam. She left because ______, _________, and _________.
The question is WHY? Not her WHY. Yours.
Stop focusing on your W. Stop begging forgiveness of your sins. She is not perfect either.
Your life wasn't perfect and it won't be if she comes back.
BUT
You have an opportunity here Cam, before you run away with your tail between your legs, to learn and decide to do better.
That has nothing to do with your W. But it is imperative if you don't want to make the same mistakes with this M going forward or any other relationship you decide to have.
What do you want to do?
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
