PLEASE!!! Need help quick! Calling all vets!

[angel61]

Tad, of all the posters in MLC, you come across as the most desperate, the most needy, the most dependent. If I, who only reads the words you have written, not seeing your face, feels that coming through your posts, what more of your W? No wonder she wants to run far, far away. I'm sorry Tad, but that is my honest to goodness impression. And of course, since I am in the same boat as you, my heart goes out to you, but again, I wish that you could REALLY, REALLY understand what everyone is telling you so you could feel better.

Its not about her, Tad. Stop focusing on her. You say so in your post, but again, your first sentence is about HER!

Maybe we should try a different tactic. Next time you post, tell us about yourself. Maybe we can start talking about your anger, your resentment, and how you handle it. How you can remove it. How you view it. How it affects your life. Then think of a plan on how you can take that anger away.

I have read so much about this, and in almost all of them, the same principles apply: Do not talk, persuade, make them se reason or logic, ask for help..... because it WILL NOT WORK! The more you pressure them, guilt them, make them see how pathetic you are, how needy, how you depend on them for happiness.....

the faster they will run away from the weight of the responsibility.

All MLC'ers want to run away.When my H started, he told me that the only thing he wanted to do was to pack up his clothes and go far away. I couldn't understand it then, but I did just shut up because I felt his desperation and instinctively knew that the more I bring it up the more he would feel like fleeing. He asked me for some space, I tried my best to give it to him, and although it wasn't full, I guess it was enough to keep him home.

Tad, let her go. try this Tad - next time she talks to you agree with everything, don't even try to argue. Tell her you have thought about it and you see the light. You want to be friends? Don't delay the D, give it to her.

She lies? Just pretend you believe her. Don't show you doubt her.

Try it, tad, even for a week. YOu are looking for different ways to approach this. I think at this point you have nothing to lose.