RSGG, there is an article over on the livestrong site about detachment. I was pointed to it some months back. I helped me. Google detachment and it should be on the first page. There is another useful article about boundaries there also.
Focus on what you control, yourself, your actions, work on yourself. You will get through this and come out stronger for the experience.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill