PLEASE!!! Need help quick! Calling all vets!

[tadpole1025]

Thanks. Today was a little better, but still down. Still [censored] knowing that W believes that she has been miserable for 15 years. I know better.

I feel like she not only "doesn't love me", but totally turned on me. She is a pit bull towards me.

Nothing new to report except for the fact that she deleted me as a friend on FB today. Of course, this comes just two weeks after she tells me that she would like to be really good friends.

WTF?

hmm, so you "lied" by not reminding her to fill out her legal paperwork?

What did her L tell her??? Could she maybe not have a L now?

Neither one of us have lawyers. She told me months ago that she spent 4 grand on a lawyer and getting the divorce filed. Then when she actually DID file, I find out that she only paid 4 hundred and did it herself online. My how they lie....

Read up on Detachment here. ASAP!

That is my weekend assignment!

Tad, you arent really doing something different.

You are still getting pulled in.
You are still hanging on every word.
You are still apologizing to her.
You are still telling her you want to talk, work it out, delay it.
You are still letting her craziness get to you.
You are still not detached.
You are still not moving forward.
You are still stuck.
You are still trying to figure her out.

You are still......

Get what I mean?

Haha. Thanks Brooklyn. I do see what you mean.

I'm telling you this exchange because I think it was AS HONEST as an MLCer in the midst of it can be. NO. It doesn't make a lot of sense. It basically means that the MLCer admits he/she isn't happy and is "drowning" and doesn't know why, assumes that the marriage, the "biggest thing" in their lives, is the problem, and figures "let me get out of the marriage and it will all be fine."

Not everyone is the same, but my XH is an MLCer who ADMITTED to me---without my even asking--but just brought this up in a moment of clarity/guilt/sadness the reason behind his craziness.

Try to take something from this. It is highly possible, in fact probable, that your wife is doing the same thing to you.

Antonia, my W actually told me that she felt like "just running. I just couldn't get out of here and run fast enough." MLC is some crazy stuff isn't it?

Sometimes, I'd argue in fits of lucidity on your part, you don't want her back. And you sometimes forget that she is not the woman you loved nor a person that can be loved right now.

Thanks AJ. I do miss the woman that I was married to. And you're right. That is who I want back.....not the creature that she has become. Yes, I do mean creature.

Tad.