Treading water - time and patience

[workinghardguy]

I will echo Accuray's comment... I know I encouraged my W to go to child support to find out how much she could get from her first ExH who she has two kids with. I think there is value in her seeing a) how small that amount is and b) getting the worksheet to see how little she'd get from me. It's not hard to do the numbers after that.

I also put together a budget for her so she could see in frank numbers what her world would look like (and what mine would look like). I would only have me, child support, and my S to pay for. She has her, my S, her S, her D, and a truckload of student loans to pay for.

I don't know if that's played any role, but I get the sense that it at least has made the other pasture of being a single mom less appealing.