Treading water - time and patience

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May be worth sharing some facts after you talk to the lawyer. I did and it definitely helped to dispell some myths. You can't argue your W back to the table, and you can't scare her back either, but you can BOTH educate yourselves about the reasons to work on staying together, and some of those reasons are hard cold financial realities that don't have much to do with feelings unfortunately. Part of doing the opposite may be working out the financial picture and discussing it with W. Keep it factual, not emotional. May be a hail Mary but your situation seems to be getting dire.