Emailed my W last night and said let's catch up next week and I will give you a key to the house to come and get your stuff. Also, made reference to last weekend and some of the things she brought up, basically said this:
W,
Thank you for catching up on the weekend. It was nice to see you, its been so long, and I know it was difficult. I've been thinking a lot about some of the things you said on Saturday, particularly the hurts and disappointments you had with me over the years.
I have been reflecting on this and myself and I feel I never properly listened or heard you when you expressed your pain from these instances.
I can't imagine how it would have made you feel to move 1000s of miles from home to be with the man you love and I didn't express the same excitement.
You gave so much for us to be together and it is something I am so appreciative of. I can see and understand how hurt you would have been when I took too long to propose to you, especially when I knew for years that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with you.
As I mentioned, I am doing a lot to see how I contributed to where we are at and I can fully see and appreciate your hurts. Again, I can't imagine how you would have felt when I stupidly said I didn't want kids. It would have been devastating for you and I can see it would have hurt so much. I am sorry, as even though you don't believe it, I never meant it. It was my immaturity and it was more reflective of that time, not what I wanted in the future. I always wanted us to have a family, and our son be a pilot to get us cheap flights to the States !
I can see and understand why you weren't happy and got scared and unsettled. I am sorry.
Cam
And....as usual...no response. I just think she wants to pretend I don't exist, get her stuff and go and never look back....and just keep on running.
M 35 W 31 Separated 2/2011 but still together Ended it 4/2011 Together 8 yrs Married 3.5 yrs Lawyers involved 6/2011