If she wants to believe you are doing this out of spite then she will.
Just make sure you are not.
West you are going to feel like a doormat until you don't.
Until you take command of YOURSELF and not suffer the whim of her reaction or non reaction.
Do you know what you want? Live it.
If she would just come back you'll be fine? No.
If she came back right now you two would fall back into the same dysfunction that got you here.
And how does that feel right now? Want to do this again?
You control only yourself so get busy on that and the rest will take care of itself.
I snipped this a while ago and I think it's perfect:
W, I've told you before that I still love you and still think that we can have a great life together as both a couple and a family. I've not changed my mind on that. But I understand you are not happy, that you do not feel happy or complete inside.
You need to do what will make you happy. By my side, we live as partners, we share everything and we would do anything to help one another. But that's only if we continue as a team.
I won't stand in your way. But I also will not help you leave this marriage or this family. And I will never accept another person being a part of our life together.
I hope you find the happiness you are looking for. Go do what you need to do. You know where I will be.
What will help you in your goal to get control of YOU?
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
