Treading water - time and patience

[NYCPeter]

I would say MC has helped communication. I'm not sure he's tried to focus on other problems, he's asked us to say things that cause us stress and mine were external to our R (primarily work and money). My W talked about me wanting to be too close after being distant for so long and that she's "not ready" for that. Problem is she's even less ready now...

"usually both spouses need to take a step down in living conditions. It's important that your W understands that -- her living situation will get worse too, as will that of your daughters." - I really don't think she does. She thinks I will move out and pay for two homes out of savings - I'm at a loss as to how she thinks our girls living situation will be any better.