All 3 of us married strong women and all 3 of us behaved the same.
Behaved.....as in being passive? As in letting resentment build until you are blowing the stack? Am I thinking of someone else who said they had to work themselves up for a few days before expressing how they felt.....and then the temper was lost?
Rick, I am considered by my H, and most others, to be a strong woman. So, maybe that qualifies me to tell you something about being M to a strong woman. Strong women HATE, HATE, HATE for their H's to be passive! The stronger the woman, the more important it is to have respect for him. Otherwise, she will chew him up and spit him out. In fact, she will continue to disrepect him to see if he has any b@lls at all.
The H may think he is cooperating or letting the W have her way.....but in reality he is passive. The stronger the woman...the more she desires to have a man who will stand his ground....especially when she is wrong. That is why you see some women go after the bad boys....not b/c he's bad, but b/c she often mistakes his bad behavior...as him being strong.
Oh, and one more thought here....if the H leaves the children's discipline up to the W to carry out......very bad resentment will take root. She wants a man who will take charge. I'm not saying to take things to the other extreme. You have to use some wisdom here.
Don't confuse being easy-going, nice guy mentality, who loving, kind, good-hearted, cooperative, etc., as passive. Not the same thing.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
