Trusting,
The problem is that yes, this is indeed part of their personalities, too.

I have asked myself if how I feel is a matter of forgiveness. I forgive a little more each day, and I know I need to work on it, although you can't control how you feel.

The thing is, there is a difference between forgiving and allowing someone to continue treating you badly, and not wanting the bad treatment--or even a chance at it--is perfetly understandable. I would be able to forgive, but I do not want to open up the situation to allow that kind of treatment again. I had PTSD from X's screaming at me.


M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D