Yeah, Endeavour (you British or something?) - as someone else posted, at least the statement wasn't followed with "by OM" Being here has really opened my eyes to how small my problems are by comparison to some others.

Thanks, Kaffe - shock is still clearing, but I'm starting to get a little pumped. Still a little weak in the knees when I think that by the time the little guy/girl is in kindergarten I will be 50! Then by the time...actually, no. Age projections are not my friend. Gotta just take it as it comes.

The news has sweetened M a little bit. I think we are both realizing that we DO need each other.

I did one of my stupid little things that hurts W's feelings last night (something totally unintentional and unknowing) - and things suddenly got cold again. I apologized simply and briefly, knowing that trying to pursue an apology more passionately does not make either of us any happier. I really don't like the fact that W takes so long to warm back up after a little thing. But, after years of miscommunication and "same old stuff" in our marriage, I guess it's where she is right now. Which means it's where I am, too.

I'll let you guys know how it goes with the parents - hers and mine - when we have told them. In the meantime, I have a knot in my stomach with anticipation.

W has a better attitude - or better bravado. She just says, "F**k 'em, it's none of their business."

I gotta get me some chutzpah like that.

Think about it...if you met a potential mate who was nothing but a bundle of needs, would YOU be attracted to them?